TAMMY WRITES LIFE

The only way you can get over something that has caused you pain and hurt you is by processing it and coming to terms with it so you can move on whether you do this yourself or with the help of a professional. Sadly there is not a fast forward button to press in life that will take you past it all but you will move forward from it faster if you face it head on and deal with it. Many people make the mistake of trying to avoid dealing with it and think that if they put it out of their mind or distract themselves for long enough then it will go away but it wont and unless you resolve your feelings and emotions attached to it then it will never go away and will keep bubbling up inside you until it is resolved and this can cause detriment to your mental and physical wellbeing. You have already survived it and so to process it in a safe place in order to heal from it is not going to harm you and although you may feel uncomfortable at times to revisit it, you have to face it and process i

The only person who you can ever really rely upon in life is yourself and when you know that you have to rely upon yourself to get things done then you will realise that self pity, a victim mentality and a ‘why me' or ‘its not fair' attitude is not going to change your circumstances or make you feel better about things, in fact it will stop you from doing something to make your life better and will probably make you feel bitter and resentful and stuck in a rut. You have no control over the poor behaviour of others and you are not responsible for their poor behaviour and you are certainly not to blame for it so you have to look at it as shame on them and not shame on you and rise above it and take responsibility for yourself and your own life to move forward from it without letting it have a detrimental effect on you and your self worth or change the way that you treat people and yourself. You are responsible for the way you conduct yourself and no matter what happens you

Firstly you have to accept yourself as you are for good and bad as you are who you are and you should never apologise for that or try to change for others just to be accepted and fit in and you should certainly never dislike parts of yourself. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and you have to learn to love them all in the same way as you are unique and there are reasons why you are the way you are. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to try new things is a good way to enhance your self esteem and confidence in yourself and your own abilities.  Doing one small thing a day to help you grow, learn and develop means that in a year you will have accomplished at the very least 365 different things that will have changed you for the better and increased your self esteem and worth. Taking responsibility for your own actions, decisions and the consequences that they bring also will make you feel more confident in yourself as you will know that you

  How can you live a happy life without stress? You have to accept life on lifes terms and have faith in your own abilities to be able to deal with the challenges you have that are in your control by realising that life throws nothing at you that you are not fully equipped to deal with and not worry about the things that you have no control over. Everything passes in time and nothing ever stays the same so accept that all you have is the present moment and in that moment if you are not thinking about the past or projecting into the future then in the here and now you are ok so enjoy the present moment as all is well in this place at that very moment. There is always a positive and a negative in all circumstances that arise even if you initially see only the negatives so look for the positives and you will see them. You should not waste time stressing about events in the past as the past is gone and it cant be changed and you should not waste time s