TAMMY WRITES LIFE

Well who the hell knows what a good relationship looks like as one size fits all can not possibly apply in this case for something so unique to two people who are deeply in love with each other and in a relationship with their soulmate who is perfect for them and only them!  Right? Whatever!!  I say this in a way that is not as flippant as you may think as what I mean is to a degree whatever you truly feel is right for you in a relationship may well be right as not everyone is of healthy mind so what is deemed to be a healthy relationship will almost certainly not be right for those who are screwed up which to be fair is of a higher percentage than those who are certified as sane! Or should I say were sane before they fell crazy in love! I will admit that over the years my idea of what makes a good relationship has changed from one extreme to the other, has turned inside out, upside down, gone far left then right and has done a 360 degree turn so many times that I have wanted

Believe it or not, many people are very easy to read when it comes down to trying to find out whether they have betrayed you in a relationship by the way they react when they are presented with your concerns about the situation that has caused you to doubt them enough to question it!  However this very much depends upon the way you go about it! Despite the overwhelming desire to rush in on a whim and act on impulse in these situations, this is not usually the most conducive way to get to the truth and you have to be smart about it and keep your emotions under control just long enough for you to get your head around it all by listening to your gut instinct and then gathering some evidence that points to your doubts having some substance to make you understand the reasons why your gut feeling is telling you that something is not quite right!  I am totally convinced that you can always trust your own instincts when they are trying to alert you to the fact that something is not rig

Noone likes to be disliked and it can be painful but you have to accept that not everyone is going to like you which is easier to do when you like who you are and are being true to yourself. By all means do take a look at yourself if you find that this is happening more often than it should and give yourself a reality check and if you believe that you may need to tweak a few things here and there to be able to remain true to yourself then so be it but don't change who you are just to try and please others to be liked. Instead accept the differences and be grateful that you are not a people pleaser who has compromised themselves to be liked and has to seek validation from others to feel happy about themselves! Most of the time the reason why others don't like you is more about them and their insecurities and issues than it is about you! Don't waste time trying to make them change their mind and like you and instead use that time to find someone else who doe

One of my all time pet hates is lies and I just hate being lied to and the only thing I hate more than this is myself if I  have lied to someone else! There are three things that I dislike about being deceived by another; The lie The lying  The liar If only your pants could spontaneously combust when caught in a lie.... it would be a great deterrent and make it so much easier to spot a liar! So what is a lie? Well according to Wikipedia; "A lie is a statement that the stating party believes to be false and that is made with the intention to deceive. The practice of communicating lies is called lying, and a person who communicates a lie may be termed a liar. Lies may be employed to serve a variety of instrumental, interpersonal, or psychological functions for the individuals who use them. Generally, the term "lie" carries a negative connotation, and depending on the context a person who communicates a lie may be subject to social, legal, religious, or cri

From an early age I learned to make my own decisions. This was initially not through choice but by necessity as I was the oldest of four children who were brought up by a single mother who had no time for added pressures and woes or any interest in the petty problems that as children we were facing as she had enough on her plate raising the four of us alone whilst consumed with hatred for our father who she divorced when he allegedly had an affair with her niece (her sisters daughter who would babysit us). Not only could I not burden her further with my issues, I had to step up and help her with hers by taking the pressure off by assisting her to raise my younger siblings which meant dealing with their day to day problems rather than my mother having to! As strange as this may seem, it's something that I now see as a blessing to have learned from such an early age that I can deal with my own decisions about my problems and alone I am able to decide what I need and want to d

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