TAMMY WRITES LIFE

Oh the irony of it! The answer is;  (drum roll please ... ...................) CHANGE!  Of course.. (and I dont mean coins) “Change is the only constant in life.” – Heraclitus Although many seem to  dislike or fear change, 'a change is gonna come' as Ella Fitzgerald sings so beautifully. That's just how it is! Nothing stays the same and can never be the same as it was before again. Everything is constantly changing! Everything around us and every one of us. Buddhism teaches us that everything is fluid and  temporary, including the  bad times so to accept it as it is and go with the flow of life! For many people the idea of being in control of their own lives and making changes is a frightening concept and so they prefer to do nothing believing that they will remain the same. Whether or not, you want to change, you are going to change so surely it's better to make the changes you choose to make that can benefit you rather than be su

One of the biggest eye openers for me in life was learning that it was healthy to have and express negative feelings and emotions! Anger, sadness, hurt and even fear! Not only did I deny these emotions in myself but I was also of the opinion that it was wrong for others to express them. Believing in a whole lot of things that I had heard or been taught along the way such as; 'Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone!' 'Noone wants to be around you if your unhappy' 'Noone wants to be burdened with your problems' 'Negative people just bring you down' 'Anger is so ugly to see and is a sign of weakness' 'Unless you are always upbeat and happy, people will not want you around' 'The moment you get angry you have already lost the argument' 'People lose all respect for you when you cry like a baby' 'Its better to show no emotion when someone hurts you than give them the satisfaction th

Over the years I have learned  a lot about people and how you can see who they really are! Many people are not what they claim to be especially those that have to constantly make statements claiming they are who they  say they are, which says to me, that's not what you are! 'What you see is what you get!' 'I'm straight up!' 'I say it as it is!' 'You can trust me, I'm honest!' You know the type! It's the first thing they tell you on meeting them... by the  third, fourth fifth time you can be sure that you will definitely remember them for it but it has the reverse effect and by the end of your first encounter, the doubts have crept in as to their sincerity as if they really are as they keep claiming to be then why do they feel the need to convince me of it! May be  because they are not completely convinced of it themself! The best way by far I have found to get the real measure of a person's character is by  how they

We all have them! Some high, some low and some that are just right! A set of values and personal standards (even self imposed or inherited rules) that are used by us in our day to day living of life. Your behaviours reflect your personal expectations of yourself. Also the way you treat others and the way you treat yourself are all based on your own personal values and standards whether you're aware of them consciously or unconsciously. Perhaps you have not thought too deeply before about what values and standards are personally important to you to live life by but I am guessing you have probably had expectations of others in their treatment of you! No doubt there have been times when you have felt let down, hurt, disappointed and even angry by the behavior of others because it did not meet your expectations... Is that not a good reason for you taking the time to get your personal values and standards in order? Being clear about the values and standards you hold dea