Kindness is not a weakness!

I often hear comments about the those people who are the 'nice one's always getting screwed over!

As much as it would appear to be so that those amongst us who are emphatic, generous and caring do seem to be taken advantage of on occasion, I am of the opinion that it's shame on those who take advantage and not shame on those who are taken advantage of.

My advice to those who are taken advantage of is not to change who you are but to change who you show your kindness to.

What I mean by this is that it is your choice for sharing Kindness and it should be on your terms. You should not be coerced into doing things for others others out of guilt or fear of under duress, nor should you do it when you don't want to out of a sense of duty or for what you may gain at a later date!

Kindness is a gift for you to give freely without strings attached, so give away at your leisure but it has to be on your terms and because it's what you want to do otherwise people will take advantage and you will feel resentful!

 This is a poem written by me about it;

My Kindness is not a weakness

Kindness means to me, giving others my all whatever it may be!

Being kind and generous is for the good of all, as those who share and care feel complete and whole. 

Kindness is an ability that comes naturally to everyone, even the poorest of people can always give some.

Being considerate and in tune to the needs of those we are around, always rewards us with a better part in ourself being found.

Kindness is a gift I never dreamed would be abused but to some it is a weakness in you that deserves to be used.

At first when my kindness was exploited by greed, I doubted whether it was wise to want to help those I saw as in need.

Taken advantage of is where my kindness had got me.

It seemed my kindness was a weakness in me that everyone could see.

This weakness therefore, I had to change, had to stop giving, toughen up and not be so naive. As being kind only meant I was easy to deceive.

I tried to stop showing the kindness that I had always shown before but....

To show no kindness wasn't easy for me, it didn't come naturally, just made me feel I wasn't me anymore.

So I kept showing kindness despite thinking I was weak to do so.

but it was automatic to me and a trait that wasn't going to go.

After some time of searching deep within, I realised taking advantage of ones kindness was the only sin.

I'm full of kindness that I must give to others come what may, I am the way I am and blessed to be that way;
But what I had to change was why and how I chose to give it away!

So please do not mistake my kindness as a weakness in me.

As If you abuse my kindness it's only your weakness I see!
Shame on you, not shame on me!